"IF IT DON'T FIT-DON'T BE AFRAID TO QUIT"

Why are so many women single yet, are in a committed relationship? What causes so many long term relationships not to advance to marriage. Women would say that they are supportive, loving, and all that a man could want or need, yet, he won't marry her. When we begin dating a man, the expectation has to be clearly set, if you are ultimately looking for a husband, don't be afraid to say that. Don't sacrifice what you want for the sake of "being down", it will haunt you in the long run and you can bet your bottom dollar , he won't forget what you say initially and it will come up. What are some deal breakers? If the man steps out on you with another woman, and this is unacceptable don't stay with him and keep fighting about it and bringing it up. If you decide to stay with him, forgive him and move on. If you can't forgive him, end the relationship and move on, this is a huge reason so many relationships are in a miserable place.  Stop giving a man who is merely a boyfriend all the benefits that you would give your husband. You give no incentive for a man to take the big step to marry you. If you are having sex with him, co-habitating with him, washing his clothes, etc...right now, what is the urgency for this man to marry you. Women take responsibility for what is happening in the relationships that we are in, you can have the relationship you want but, it's up to you to set the standards. If you don't want a guy that smokes, then don't start dating one thinking that you will change him. That's another big mistake, we date a man thinking we will eventually change all the things we don't like about him and end up miserable because, he is who he is. Here's a tip, when dating already know what things you can compromise on also, know what you won't  accept and don't waver on it. Religion, promiscuity, lying, work ethics, abuse, and disrespect for example are things that shouldn't be compromised. Women we have to wake up, if it doesn't make you happy now, chances are it won't make you happy in the future. There is someone for everyone and yes, relationships are work, but, if you don't have the right ingredients in the beginning it becomes less likely that things will get better. My sisters don't be afraid to wait, don't be afraid to be single, in the long run it will be well worth the wait.